I used to waste a lot of my time dwelling on the past, thinking about what my life would look like now, if I had done things differently or not at all. Wondering if I would be at a better place than I am right now and eventually I realized it was a complete waste of time.
Well, maybe not completely as it helped me change the way I look at my past. Instead of constantly dwelling on it I learned to appreciate the past for what it is whenever I looked back because… Really, what’s the point of “what if’s” and regrets about the past? It’s sucking away your precious time and does nothing you can benefit from. Ironically, looking back too much at the past is what I regret the most.
Whenever I found myself stuck in the past, I told myself: “It is what it is.” Saying it over and over again eventually made me accept the past for what it is - the past. I came to terms with what happened and what I did or what I didn’t do and I gave up the illusion that the past could have been any different.
Now when I look back at the past, I do not regret anymore, I embrace and appreciate it. And that is what this quote by Victoria Holt is about - to be grateful for the good times, the fun, the sad, the bad and even the mistakes we make along the way as we gain irreplaceable experience and learn valuable life lessons through them.